Hey Frans! I recently had the pleasure of connecting with a bunch of girl bosses over brunch. It wasn’t for a particular reason or event — just a bunch of beautiful women, brunching their hearts out. We met up at Sissy’s Southern Kitchen in Dallas, and the food was yummy as the locations was charming.
We talked about everything from what we do for a living to future goals, and how we could all connect on a regular babies. It was refreshing to sit down with a group of ladies and just enjoy and afternoon of good food and great company. THIS is how it should be when women get together and exercise what I call “The PowHer of She”, but we would be naive to think peace and positivity is always the outcome when connecting with a community of women. There is an apparent lack of authenticity on social media. I notice an absence of genuine sisterhood, yet an abundace of self-entitled women with pretty squares and petty behavior.
There are women who will call you “mama” + wish you the best, as long as you aren’t doing better than them.
There are women who will buy likes/followers to create self-worth, then get upset when you can’t see the value in their efforts.
There are hurt people, who hurt people, by projecting their pain and deflecting on you.
There are women who will hate on you because they see how others love you.
There are women who will boast community, yet beget competition.
There are women who will say they’re minding their own business yet keep checking for you.
There are women who came long after you, but will believe they did it all, said it all, and inspired it all before you.
There are women who will come for you when you didn’t send for them, but will lack the wherewithal to actually “come see you”.
There are women who are so narcissistic that they think anything you do was done with them in mind.
There are women who will hate you b/c they ain’t you and as a result, exhibit a whole lot of jealous and insecure behavior.
My sista frans, if you encounter such disingenuous women, remember your place on the pedastal as the daughter of a King. If someone feels threatened by your awesomery and blocking you gives them security, thank God that He never blocks our blessings and leave them be. If someone passive aggressively addresses you, assert yourself with respect + dignity as the Queen you are. If someone lies about you, remember what lies within you. When you know who you are and whose you are, you count it ALL joy! Praise God for lifting you up & pray for those who speak down on you b/c they may be fighting a battle that’s bigger than their dislike for you. Real recognizes real so everybody isn’t going to look familiar to you. Love yourself so much that you got a little love to send their way. Have compassion, forgive, keep winning, and keep being the bomb diggity boss babe you are!!