Living single is not a death sentence or a punishment. It may not feeling like it in your brokenness, but it isn’t something that you “deserve”. Life presents us with a series of seasons, so you can choose to sulk in the sadness of being by yourself, or you can focus on the journey of being WITH yourself. Does that make sense? Keep reading…
I remember all the moments I cried out to God, praying for love. “Why does everyone around me have someone but me?” “Am I unloveable?” “Am I not pretty enough?” After several wrong choices and no longer allowing “in the meantime” relationships to mask themselves as my life’s plan, God revealed to me that in order for Him to save me FOR someone, He had to show me that I AM someone. And most importantly, I had to believe Him. Happiness is an inside job. It’s not something you can depend on someone else to deliver to you. My worth couldn’t be tied to temptation and my faith couldn’t be found in the flesh. I was tired of settling for “situationships” and decided to demand more of myself. I created boundaries for people I met, I learned the value of my sowing season, I focused on growing my relationship with God, and I began honoring my journey as a single woman.
If you are always on the hunt for companionship, looking for completion, and seeking confirmation — then you will NEVER find it where you are. If you are constantly focusing on being without someone, then you will never find wholeness within yourself. Don’t let the enemy trick you into thinking that you aren’t worth God’s best efforts. God is pruning you, refining you, and growing you so that you won’t have to chase after the love that you so desperately seek. You will find it within — without finding it in “him”, and when the timing is right, not only will God give you the desires of your heart, but He will send you someone HE trusts to protect it.
I appreciate so much of who I was before I got married. When I was in high school, there used to be a saying — The chosen get chose. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realize — The chosen choose.
My husband didn’t complete me, as I am still a work in progress. He was the answer to a prayer I uttered a thousand times and he was a promise kept, that the best was yet to come. He is my partner, my best friend, my soulmate who was soulmade for me, and a reminder that good things come to those who trust God to bring them, in His perfect timing.
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